First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes conflicting schedules, changing priorities and a laundry list of other reasons including actual laundry that just seem to get in the way of having sex. What really happens between the sheets for couples who are 5, 10, 15, 20 or more years past the initial hot-and-heavy phase of a relationship? And it turns out, even though kids and life can get in the way, in many cases there is plenty to look forward to when it comes to sex in the long term. We chatted with 11 couples about how often they get down, how sex has changed and how to keep the romance alive. Definitely missing the connection sex brings to our marriage.
This Is How Often Happy Couples Are Having Sex, According to Therapists
How Often Do You Have Sex?
Here is what they say, as well as some additional tips to help you get your sex life on track! There is some question among sex therapists about what the true average is for couples in committed relationships. The answers can range from once a week to once a month! When couples stop having sex, their relationships become vulnerable to anger, detachment, infidelity and, ultimately, divorce. However, another study, printed in The University of Chicago Press about 10 years ago, stated that married couples are having sex about seven times a month, which is a little less than twice a week. And in a third study, it was reported that out of the 16, adults interviewed, the older participants were having sex about 2 to 3 times per month, while younger participants said they were having sex about once a week. Most sex therapists agree that having sex less than 10 times a year is reason enough to label your marriage a sexless one.
For a happy relationship, get busy under the sheets once a week it's science! A new study published in the journal Social Psychological and Personality Science says couples who have sex once a week are happier than those who get busy less often. Researchers collected data from 30, Americans over the course of 40 years, and determined the perfect number of times to have intercourse is once weekly. No less. And not even more.
Many parents of young children are in the exact same boat. I mean, really, your biggest priority in life is to care for your children. You need to work to provide for your children — feed them, cloth them, entertain them and make sure you give them ample opportunities to grow and evolve as little humans.